Most of these roles are automatic for us and we don’t think about them very much. What’s special about them is that we’ve learned to automatically shift what we’re doing depending on what role we’re playing in what place.

That means that when you’re playing your sister-role, you’re going to behave differently than if you’re playing your partner-role or your student-role. All this is well and good, and it actually serves a purpose in the real world. Could you imagine what would happen if you started playing your mother-role at school, or your partner-role in your soccer-team? Probably not a huge success.

Sometimes, when it comes to sex, both men and women, continue playing the roles of the outside world. Now, they might not be playing the exact same roles as before, maybe they’re playing the “woman”-role and the “man”-role, which is better than nothing, but what I’ve found to be true is that it is actually COUNTERPRODUCTIVE to play any type of role when you’re having sex or learning how to give head.

The best sex is had when you let go of your roles and just focus on enjoying whatever it is that’s happening right before you. Sometimes your man will do something you would never accept in the outside world because it would make you feel “violated”, but inside the bedroom you find great pleasure from it. Then let go of that role and the feeling that you have to “defend” yourself in some way.

What happens in the bedroom doesn’t define you in any way: Just do whatever it is that you find most pleasurable.

The answer to that is that there are hundreds of different things you can do with your mouth, and even beyond that, you can still use other body parts to induce pleasure in your man.

Today’s tip is going to be about light biting. I know, you might think “biting, around his genitals? what?”. But it’s a very specific type of sensual biting. It’s the type of biting where you give the recipient the sensation of them being bitten without actually getting hurt. Done in the right way, this can be extremely subduing since it has all the right sub-communication of that raw, primal sex that we all want on some level.

Another way to use your teeth is to gently put some of this ball sack, without the balls of course, in your mouth and “pull” the sack with your teeth. Do this slowly as you might cause him some pain otherwise.  If you do it right, this will cause a fantastic sensation in him that will definitely make him think that “this chick sure knows how to give head!”.

Well, there are a few, but I’m only going to talk about two of the main ones:

First off, we have something that any woman who wants to give his man unprecedented pleasure needs to STOP doing. It’s something that has caused more pain for men out there than you would even imagine. I’m talking about letting your teeth run over his cock. A stroke once in a while is okay and might even be arousing, but if you’re fully unconscious of it happening then you’re probably doing it  A LOT more than you need to which means that all that pleasure you’re trying to give him has an element of PAIN mixed in. I don’t know about you, but most guys I’ve met have been all about PLEASURE.

The second thing I’m going to give you might not be as tangible as the first one, but still very much applicable. I’m going to tell you something that you need to START doing. For one reason or another, most women are way too soft when it comes to playing with his cock. While for most women a soft steady pace is the way to climax, most men enjoy a woman that can blow him all the way from super-soft to  ragingly hard. What I’m trying to say is that don’t be afraid to “dig in there”; his cock is firm as a BONE, it won’t mind you playing rough for a while. In fact, if it could say something, then it would probably be “Thank you!”. Check out another post on how to give great head.

I know of many different techniques for giving him insane pleasure, but they’re worth nothing if you don’t have a feeling for not only what but how to do them. Even the best techniques will get even better if you “sell it” the right way. What am I talking about?

Foreplay! It’s the best way to make him appreciate whatever it is you’re doing a lot more. For instance, if you have something that you normally do that will give him 4/10 on the pleasure scale, if you start out with five or ten minutes of foreplay before that, you’ll suddenly boost it to 8/10 in the pleasure scale. And also, who doesn’t love to see their partner moaning and cringing with pleasure?

Here are some SUPER QUICK foreplay tips, as I’m already late for work:

Bite , kiss, pull and tug every part of his body except for his cock and balls. Enough of this and he’ll go nuts and pretty much BEG you to get down to business. Don’t you like to get begged?

Have you ever HAD TO do something? Whenever you phrase something as a HAVE TO or a SHOULD then you implicitly tell yourself that you actually don’t want to do it, but that you have to do it. Suddenly, a resistance to doing it builds up inside you.

If you want to learn how to give head easily, one of the first steps is definitely to control how you think about giving head. Are you giving head because you think that you HAVE TO give head because otherwise he’ll not like you? Or are you giving head because you WANT TO?

That might not be the whole puzzle, but it’s definitely a sizable chunk of it all. Whenever you’re doing something you actually want to be doing, which would surprise you is what you’re doing most of the time, rephrase those SHOULDS and HAVE TOS into I WANT or I WILL. It’s a much healthier and more productive way to think about life, and it is sure to improve your blow job skills!

With most, if not all, unconscious skills that we have acquired there’s always certain things we do that are not productive. And since no one is mentoring us, the problem stays the same and continues to put down our performance. This is exactly the case with learning how to give head.

The problem with learning how to give head is that you never have a real “teacher”. Sure, your boyfriend might give you the occasional tip, but most of the time he either doesn’t want to hurt your feelings and make you super-self-conscious or he simply doesn’t know himself what he wants (trust me, this is super-common, most guys can tell you if they like something or not, but they can’t really help you out with what to do).

Luckily enough, I wanted to give you three quick “Don’ts” that will help you out while you’re learning how to give head that will please your man.

• Don’t Use Teeth. It’s not even funny how common this mistake is. Even the women that consider themselves sexually experienced usually make this mistake way too often. Tuck in those teeth under your lips, otherwise you risk scuffing his cock and even making it bleed. That will definitely not impress.
• Destroy Distractions. Imagine this. You’re giving your man a blowjob. He’s absolutely loving it. Then your cell phone starts ringing. What do you do? If you’re thinking you answer it, that’s the wrong answer. Or what about if you have a big project at work, do you think about it while giving head? NO! Remember, your man will feel whatever it is you feel. Make sure your attention is completely on pleasing your man, otherwise he won’t be able to fully enjoy that pleasure, and then you’re just wasting both of your times.
• More Pressure = More Pleasure. The last tip I wanted to share with you is this: The more pressure you use on his cock the more pleasure you’ll induce. Most women are scared to grab his cock hard or to suck too hard on his penis because they think it’ll hurt him. But honey, they don’t call it a boner for nothing: it’s tough as bone! Except biting his cock off with your mouth (bad idea), there’s not much you can do pressure wise with neither your mouth or your hands that will send him running in the wrong direction. NOTE: I’m ONLY talking about pressure here. There are a lot more things you can do wrong like rasping, scratching etc.